Moving/Living On Your Own and Why It's Ok

I recently realised how big of an introvert I was and probably the worst you will ever meet. I constantly need time to recharge in isolation, which can take up to a full day sometimes. If I don't do this, I often find myself exhausted from small tasks and full of anxiety, which unfortunately makes me unable to function properly and therefore ruin relationships around me (I still sometimes do this). I convinced myself that I wasn't normal and had really bad social skills when in reality I wasn't giving enough time for myself. I have now stopped feeling guilty and have stopped putting myself down for wanting alone time and here's why you should too...

Cloudy Thurstag 2015

I remember that feeling of being trapped inside my own house because all my friends were too busy to do anything, how crazy is that? Even though I would have preferred my own company or to just sit there in silence I always felt as though someone needed to be with me. When you realise that it's OK to do things alone, you realise how amazing it is and you will never ask someone to join you for that coffee ever again. When you are alone you are your most comfortable and that is really healthy for the mind (of course socialising is good too!) and you are able to just be at one with yourself and listen to your own thoughts. About 2 or 3 years ago I couldn't find anyone to visit Japan with me so I accepted the fact that I was never going to go, that was until early this year I met some incredible like-minded people who were off on their own travels (by themselves) and my thought process was literally "fuck it. If not now, when?" and that was that, I then booked my ticket to go all by myself and it genuinely feels like the best decision I have ever made.

As cliche as this sounds, when you spend so much time with yourself, you find yourself; who you are, who you want to be ,what you want, what you like and what you don't like, what you want from life and how to be better. But you also need to remember how to take care of yourself, self care is key. When you live on your own it is essential to feed your soul with love, comfort and warmth. Learn to cook real food and give your body plenty of nutrients and it will feel better. Stay hydrated and drink lots of tea and water. Shower or bathe often, keeping personal hygiene makes you feel fresh and cleansed. Take time to read a book or watch a movie. Take a nap. Go for a walk. Do yoga or mediate. Whatever it is that makes you feel good. Do it.

I think the key thing to remember when you are on your own is that you are your own best friend and your own saviour. Feeling lonely, or sad, or anxious is what makes us human and if you're an introvert like myself then you know how in touch with your emotions you can be. Take it as a blessing and think about how incredible it is that you are able to feel. So next time you are all alone reading your book or drinking your coffee, take a mental note of how you feel, write it down, or just appreciate it in the moment so you can look back and remember you felt OK in your own company.

Love B xxx